Old-Fashion Values That The
Old-Timers Taught Us
We hear a lot about the vintage skills of growing our own food, home preservation, re-purposing, being less wasteful and home-cooked meals. Retro Housewife has an excellent list of these skills. If you’d like to read more of what she has to say, you can click here.
There’s a few things that I think go along with all of those skills that we don’t hear much about, and that is those old-time values that many families from back in the day were brought up on. I was fortunate enough to be brought up with those same values and I feel very blessed that I can now pass them onto my little people.
The importance of family
Back in the day, family meant everything! I can remember all my cousins, aunts, and uncles gathering at my nana’s to have a big, family dinner every Sunday. It is one of the fondest memories I have as a child. It was just a small way for the family to come together and celebrate the hard work we put in the week before. Here on the homestead, we’ve done our best to pass this same value on to our own children and it’s one of the reasons we have dinner around our dining room table every day. Our little people get spatting with one another every once in a while and I gently remind them that when they are all grown up, their siblings will be their very best friends. That only a sibling knows what life was like growing up, only a sibling can share in those wonderful memories about building our homesteading, holidays, birthdays and that one embarrassing memory you have as a kid that you don’t want anyone else to know about.
Respect for others and for themselves
Respect was big in our home growing up. It was expected of us to respect those who were older than us and for good reason. I’m sure to let my children know that it isn’t age alone that causes us to respect someone, but it’s the wisdom that comes with age that deserves that respect. I want my children to know that if someone loves and cares about them enough to help them avoid mistakes that they may have made when they were younger, than that person deserves their respect. That there is nothing wrong with saying, “Yes ma’am”, or “No, sir.” That it is expected of them to use their manners and be polite.
The value of hard work
It’s really important to Handyman and I, for our children to feel the sense of accomplishment that comes with hard work. I want all of my children to have a good work ethic and to understand that nothing in this world that is free, is worth it. Our 16-year-old just bought his first car, and he knew that his dad and I were not in a position to help him, especially with just buying the homestead. He took every penny of his savings to buy a car that needed some work. He wants to be able to put the time, effort, energy and his own money into it and he’s willing to work to get that done. Our daughter is coming up on being able to get her driver’s permit and she has started looking for a job so she can save the money she’ll need to buy her own truck. I couldn’t be prouder of these two kiddos and I know that what we’ve taught them will follow them through life.
To have a patient heart
Let me tell ya, this one is really, really hard. It’s quite difficult to have a patient heart when you have given your 5-year-old specific instructions not to go off the porch after her bath, only to have her come back 10 minutes later covered in mud. But, this is a really important value I want my children to have and I’ve found that it really is easier to take a deep breath, and pick my battles. If I want her to show compassion and patience when it’s time to move the chicks back into their coop, then I have to show her and all our other kiddos the same patience.
To be grateful and thankful for our blessings
Way back when I was a new mama, and my oldest son was just about 4 years old, he was complaining because things didn’t go his way. I made a promise that I would be sure to help him and all the little people we had in the future, recognize the blessings that they do have, even if it’s not the blessings they were expecting. When we can see past all the muck of the day and recognize the little blessings the Lord has provided for us, we can then have a heart full of content.
Living a life filled with faith
Handyman and I have been on many adventures over the last 24 years of our time together, and I can say, that if it was not for our faith in the Lord, we would have never went forward with any of the exciting things we wanted to do with our lives. We had to trust that the Lord would guide us in the right direction. The Lord is our pillar of strength and comfort during the hard times and it’s important to us for our children to know that Jesus is always there for them to lean on.